The High-Value Woman’s Dating Red Flag Checklist

This Dating Red Flag Checklist will help you assess a man’s behavior and identify warning signs early in a relationship. Each red flag is assigned a weighted score based on its severity.

How to Use the Checklist

• Rate each red flag based on the number of times it happens.
• Add up the total score.
• The higher the score, the more urgent it is to reconsider the relationship.

🔴 Scoring System:

• 0 points – No sign of this red flag.
• 1-3 points – Minor concern, keep an eye on it.
• 4-6 points – Moderate concern, discuss it with him.
• 7+ points – MAJOR red flag, time to walk away.

1. He Doesn’t Have a Plan for His Life (Weight: 10 Points)

⬜ He has no career or financial plan. (+5)
⬜ He frequently changes jobs or lacks stability. (+3)
⬜ He relies on you (or others) for financial support. (+2)

🔹 Total Points for This Section: _____/10

2. He’s Inconsistent in Communication (Weight: 8 Points)

⬜ He takes days to respond without a valid reason. (+3)
⬜ He disappears and reappears randomly. (+3)
⬜ He doesn’t initiate communication. (+2)

🔹 Total Points for This Section: _____/8

3. He Avoids Defining the Relationship (DTR) (Weight: 9 Points)

⬜ He refuses to talk about commitment. (+4)
⬜ He says, “Let’s just go with the flow.” (+3)
⬜ He enjoys relationship benefits without commitment. (+2)

🔹 Total Points for This Section: _____/9

4. He Doesn’t Introduce You to His Friends or Family (Weight: 7 Points)

⬜ You’ve been dating for over 6 months and haven’t met anyone close to him. (+4)
⬜ He makes excuses when you ask about meeting his family/friends. (+2)
⬜ He actively hides your relationship (no social media, avoids public places). (+1)

🔹 Total Points for This Section: _____/7

5. He Talks Badly About His Exes (Weight: 6 Points)

⬜ He calls all his exes “crazy” or “toxic.” (+3)
⬜ He blames his past relationships entirely on his exes. (+2)
⬜ He brings up his ex too often (either negatively or comparing you). (+1)

🔹 Total Points for This Section: _____/6

6. He Tries to Move Too Fast (Weight: 9 Points)

⬜ He tells you he loves you within weeks of meeting. (+4)
⬜ He pushes for physical intimacy before you’re ready. (+3)
⬜ He pressures you into exclusivity too soon. (+2)

🔹 Total Points for This Section: _____/9

7. He’s Secretive About Money (Weight: 7 Points)

⬜ He refuses to talk about his financial situation. (+3)
⬜ He spends irresponsibly or asks for money. (+3)
⬜ He avoids financial planning or discussions about the future. (+1)

🔹 Total Points for This Section: _____/7

8. He Disrespects Your Boundaries (Weight: 10 Points)

⬜ He ignores your “no” and keeps pushing for what he wants. (+5)
⬜ He tries to control aspects of your life (what you wear, who you talk to, etc.). (+3)
⬜ He guilt-trips you for setting personal limits. (+2)

🔹 Total Points for This Section: _____/10

9. He’s Emotionally Unavailable (Weight: 8 Points)

⬜ He avoids deep conversations about feelings. (+3)
⬜ He shuts down or distances himself when things get serious. (+3)
⬜ He has a pattern of failed relationships due to “not being ready.” (+2)

🔹 Total Points for This Section: _____/8

10. He’s Just Not That Into You (Weight: 10 Points)

⬜ You’re always the one initiating plans and conversations. (+5)
⬜ He doesn’t prioritize you or your time together. (+3)
⬜ He keeps his options open (flirting with other women, vague about the future). (+2)

🔹 Total Points for This Section: _____/10

🚨 Final Score and What It Means 🚨

🔢 Total Score: _____ / 84

✔ 0 – 10 Points: No serious red flags. He’s showing good signs of stability and respect—keep building the relationship with awareness.

⚠️ 11 – 30 Points: Caution zone. There are some concerns, but they might be fixable with open communication. Observe his actions closely.

🚩 31 – 50 Points: Serious red flag territory. This relationship is showing unhealthy patterns—consider having an honest conversation or reevaluating your involvement.

🚨 51 – 84 Points: RUN! This relationship is full of toxic red flags. He’s not the right man for you, and staying will only lead to heartbreak.